Soft delete records

I think, I’m almost there…

On the left I click on a child and I get see the detail View of her information, along with an inline view of her siblings and parents (or guardians).

In the View Criancas_Detail I show the all the fields from the child that the user chooses, clicking on it. The two fields (Related pais and Related irmãos) automatically open the inline Views: pais_Inline and irmaos_Inline.
Question: how do I control which view those field open as inline view?

Is it possible to have the same View, but with the indicated fields EDITABLE so that the user can toggle “excluido” from “No” to “Yes” (this is my Soft Delete).